I decided to get real and share with you a practical way that I guard the atmosphere in our home. Like I said before, we can't earn God's presence but we can cultivate an atmosphere where He feels comfortable to hang out.
"Where two are three are gathered, in My name, there I am in your midst."
So, Fred and I were having an argument of sorts...not a knock down drag out thing. He mentioned that I seemed to be walking in an attitude that I had not walked in in a long time. It revolved around the way I had been acting towards him the last few days. This time I really didn't see it. (doesn't it say somewhere about sin that we are blind to?)
Anyway, I started to justify myself etc. This tiff went on through the whole morning. We were starting to get agitated. I stepped back and looked at the situation and almost laughed. Honestly, it has been a long time since we really got into an argument. The Lord just showed me that the whole thing was so petty....on my part. It was legitimate for Fred to point out an attitude in me. He even did it nicely.
I evaluated and knew that it just wasn't worth continuing in this lame argument because it was going to keep Fred & me from the free flowing relationship we are used to. Also, it was going to quench the Spirit and what He is doing in our home.
Looking at it that way puts many things perspective. I long to have God's kingdom come and His will be done in our lives. Walking in this thing with Fred, wanting to prove I was right, was really quenching the Spirit.
So, I told Fred that I really did not see it but I would take it before the Lord and work on being more gentle and kind in the way I respond to him and the situations that come up in our home. I said I was sorry for upsetting him and that I would do whatever it would take to maintain being in His presence.
I started being proactive in the area he had pointed out and it really helped Fred and we were able to get back to where we had been or even better and I did notice a difference in the atmosphere in our home. This is vital if we want to see the presence of Jesus in our homes & if we want to know His joy. "In the presence of the Lord is fulness of Joy!" & "The Joy of the Lord is our strength".
So there you have it. Sometimes it is easier just to say how great things are but I want to be willing to share the process that gets us from here to there.
Hope this helped someone!
With Love,
Karise